Alone does not mean LONELY...

This is something that very little people realise. Been alone, does not have to mean that you are lacking, that there is something 'wrong' with you, or that you are in fact lonely. It just doesn't.

For me, been fully single again, I am loving it. My decisions pretty much revolve around me. What I want. What I need. What I dream. I don't have to check in.

It is also the best chance for me to really work out what I want out of life, where I see my life going and how I want to spend my time here on earth. But also, to find myself- discover what I like and don't like, what I love, what my dreams are, the experiences I want, the goals I have.

And I have questions.

Is my chosen career really for me? I am not totally sure... I used to be, but now I am not totally sure.
Should I do another degree, or a course?
What kind of place do I want to buy?
What qualities do I look for in a partner? Which of these will I compromise on? Which will be non-negotiable- and therefore highlight dealbreakers?
Who are the people in my life who really matter and treat me like I matter to them?

I will be using this time to sort these questions but also to discover who I am and become the best possible version of that. I want to travel and see the world, I want to express my beliefs and support them publicly, do a good deed everyday, write down three positive things from each day, experiement with hair, makeup, clothes and accessories, and most of all spend time with my friends and family who make my world better.

Kooklah Xx
-here is something to put a smile on a single girl's face

to do this summer

Since the end of December I have been working at completing a list I wrote, a summer bucket list if you will. I have 130 items on my list. I have completed around 44 of them with plans in place for the next few days to ensure I tick a few more off the list as well. Here is the list, I will update it tomorrow as to what I have completed already. It has been a really fun experience, and has encouraged me to make the most of every day and to appreciate the smaller things, particularly those I haven't done since I was a child.

So here is the list!!

1. Go on a picnic

2. Get up and watch a sunrise

3. Watch a sunset

4. Lie under the stars

5. Sleep under the stars

6. Lie on the grass and look at the clouds

7. Dance in the rain

8. Climb trees

9. Make a daisy chain

10. Water fight

11. Hand-feed an animal

12. Go on a hike/long walk

13. Watch Fireworks

14. Sleep on beach

15. Go to a pool party

16. Plant something

17. Walk Charlie (my dog)

18. Build a sandcastle

19. Look through telescope

20. Go on a boat

21. Dump a bucket of water on yourself

22. Mini golf/aqua golf

23. Walk along the beach

24. Beach at night

25. Jump on trampoline

26. Watch storm

27. Make a new friend

28. Girls night with Isabella and her 'chosen crew'

29. Play indoor

30. Cocktail night

31. Watch silence of the lambs with mum

32. Have/go to a bbq

33. Sleepover -old fashioned style

34. Start watching all of Seinfeld in order

35. Birthday dinner with Laura at Silo

36. Cook dinner for family

37. Photobooth pictures

38. Put message inside balloons and give them to someone

39. hang out with someone you haven't seen in ages

40. Hug someone each day

41. Read 10-15 books

42. rearrange/redecorate room

43. Write a chapter/multple pages of Violet story

44. Go to a movie alone

45. See a psychic

46. Create quote wall

47. Have a remedial massage

48. Have a facial

49. Paint nails all different colours

50. Scrabook event/friend/holiday

51. Develop Melbourne photos

52. Daily log photos on facebook

53. Time capsule

54. Stay up all night

55. Laser tag/paint ball

56. Send message in a bottle (or equivalent)

57. Create a summer playlist

58. Dance to the playlist in loungeroom or outside

59. Tie a secret to a balloon and let it go

60. Volunteer somewhere

61. Regular gym/fitness workouts

62. Do a good deed

63. Scream (empty room/isolated beach/roadside)

64. Send a postcard

65. Master five new hairstyles

66. Perfect a braid

67. Write a will/directive

68. Donate blood

69. Go to a fair

70. Have an ice cream spider

71. Put glitter hairspray in hair

72. Fingerpaint

73. Blow bubbles

74. Wear glowsticks

75. Watch 5 disney movies

76. Finish watching supernatural

77. Colour in

78. Climb on a jungle gym/play equipment

79. Skip with skipping rope/hula hoop

80. Go iceskating/rollerskating

81. Play truth and dare

82. Play fifa and kinect on xbox

83. Play board games

84. Play twister

85. Play bowling/yard boulee

86. Learn how to make a piece of origami

87. Make and fly a paper aeroplane

88. Play with a puppy/kitten

89. Buy someone a meal

90. Make iced tea or sangria

91. Donate money

92. Have a fondue night

93. Have/help with dinner party

94. Spend a day baking

95. Make homemade beauty products

96. Go on a mini road trip

97. Go to jets game not at newcastle

98. Go to a museum/gallery

99. Stay in a hotel after a night out

100. Go to a gig

101. Go to a market

102. Go on a gaol tour

103. Visit tourist spot near own home

104. Go through an open house

105. Go to an expensive store and try on clothes without buying anything

106. Send/give someone flowers for no reason

107. Write someone a letter

108. Tell someone how much they mean to you

109. Rent/watch history boys and two hands

110. Buy something from a yard sale

111. Meet a celebrity/near celebrity

112. Write letter to newspaper/magazine/ politician

113. Restore/revive blog

114. Revamp/create something with old clothes

115. Go to a Greek restaurant

116. opshop/vintage shop on a budget to create an outfit

117. Write a fan letter

118. Old movie day

119. Hippie day

120. Rockclimb

121. Go out and kiss/use a pick up line on a guy

122. Repaint my room

123. Tell a stranger they are beautiful/look good

124. Have a bubble bath with candles and a glass of wine

125. Go on or book a hot air balloon ride

126. Spend one day without using electricity

127. Send away for a passport

128. Start planning overseas trip

129. Create an Autumn list

130. Begin a bucket list for life (put a big piece of cardboard on door and write everything and anything that I think of)

I hope this list motivates someone!
K, Xx

Kooklah- An Introduction

I started this blog as a way of putting my opinions and my viewpoint out to the world.

To have a voice.

I think it will also be incredibly useful in working out how I feel about something -whether a global issue, a personal problem or just an idea. I am hoping that what will develop will be a clear indication of my own values. I am also hoping that what I write will reach, inspire or motivate someone. Something that may pick someone up when they are down, start the day with a bang or make them think. I want to write about life-my experiences, my hopes and dreams but I will also be writing about issues I think are important. I welcome comments, questions and ideas. I am well aware that not everyone will agree with my views, but as I say- if we were all the same and no one was different, how boring would that be?

So I think, to start, alittle about me. I am in my early 20s, I am an older sister to two siblings. I love my family. I am loyal to 'my people'...of course this includes my family but this group also includes my friends. I love the saying that friends are the family we choose for ourselves, I think this is so true. There are those friends who you mesh your life with, who you cannot remember a time when it wasn't the way it is now, friends who seem to be in your most vivid memories, who you feel like you know them almost as well as you know yourself.

I went to university and work in the health profession and love my job, and next year will be starting in a position in emergency. I am so thrilled, this is exactly what I want to do. I can't wait for the challenge and motivation I know this new position will bring. Loving your job is so important.

I love-live-breathe music- I have to listen to it everyday, I enjoy going to packed out concerts, the occasional festival or pub/small crowd gigs. Music and its lyrics have always been a way to help me through difficult times in my life and to heighten the celebration of the good. I recently bought a book that is called 'Music Listography, your life in (play) lists', which under the various headings on its 159 pages you can add the songs that are relevant to those headings (songs to play at your funeral, songs you dance to, songs that pick you up), forming your own personal soundtrack. Which is so amazing.

I love to dance, go out with my friends, drink cocktails, clothes/styling/fashion (check out my fashion blog if you do too http://forthestyleseekinggirl.blogspot.com/), to watch movies and read, going on holidays, Melbourne (where I holidayed this year and a few times previously) and cannot wait to explore Europe. I enjoy playing cards with friends and love to write. I have written short stories and am aiming to complete a novel-which has been a long drawn out process. I am against rascism and discrimination and for equality of all people no matter their age, gender, race or sexuality.

Enjoying the beautiful gardens in Melbourne...